Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love and purpose - with wisdom, humour and transparency - through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.
Join the conversation with Merry and Gillian as they help our listeners create a vision or a dream for their lives.
What is your “why” to hope for?
What are you willing to say “no” to, so that you can say “yes” to something you long for, hope for, dream of?
Research shows us that when we keep our eye on the goal and have a positive view of the outcome, we tend to stick with the process (positive psychology). We can shift our view to the positive and move away from the negative aspects of the process that keeps us from our goals.
Success is hard work and we need a willingness to move through some pain to get to the goal.
Merry suggests a view of “life as we wish it to be” she asks her clients - “if you had nothing holding you back - no restraints financially, physically etc. - how would you see yourself living your life?” She asks clients to describe an ideal day - “if you are at the top of your game, doing everything that you love, you're living with joy - what would that look like?”
Merry identifies that for some people, even allowing themselves to dream can be very daunting, so taking the time to do so and craft a response to the above questions is foundational to moving forward in our goals and longings.
Gillian suggests being able to identify the obstacle in your way. (There is always a real or a perceived obstacle.) She suggests that you use a previous similar situation that you had success in to write out a narrative. “Get as detailed as you can and describe how you felt before and through the narrative and at the end when an outcome was reached. Then use that as leverage to write out how the next hard thing that should unfold.”
Gillian and Merry share some tips for parents and some truths from scripture to help us fix our minds on the positives.
What tools can you bring into your life to keep you in a positive mindset and avoid slipping into a negative mindset thinking?
What are you allowing into your mind from internal or external forces?
Links:
Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI
Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0
Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com
Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com
Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com
