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March 13, 2020

017 - Gaining Wisdom in the Midst of Heartbreak and Disappointments

017 - Gaining Wisdom in the Midst of Heartbreak and Disappointments

Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love and purpose - with wisdom, humour and transparency -  through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.

How do you handle life’s heartbreaks and disappointments? Sadly, disappointment is a part of our lives, but the good news is that we can experience growth and gain wisdom as we handle our disappointments.


Face the reality that we are hurting. Accept the truth that life has disappointments. Disappointment is painful and we need to let ourselves experience the feelings that go along with it.  We can give ourselves permission to grieve the loss of a failed expectation.

Take accountability for our part in the disappointment and heartbreak.  Acknowledge your part in the disappointment. Gillian shares how some of her disappointments are a result of her expectations of herself and others. Do we need to address our expectations?

Dr. Merry shares that the brain's response to emotional pain is the same as it is to physical pain. She encourages us to honour our emotional pain the same way we would if we were experiencing physical pain. Give ourselves permission to have the space and rest to recover.

Don’t wallow in the pain of disappointment - rather look for the strength you displayed. Use your disappointment to point to the strength rather than your weakness.  Dr. Merry shares some powerful quotes from Lysa Terkeurst’s book  - “The Best Yes”.

Mine your disappointments and your heartbreak for growth. Then leverage that wisdom and growth for the next setback to find a healthier path through it.


The Best Yes: https://amzn.to/37oHKap

Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI

Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0

Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com

Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com

Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com