April 10, 2020
021 - People Pleasing, FOMO and Boundaries
Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love and purpose - with wisdom, humour and transparency - through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.
Phew! You don’t want to miss this one! Dr. Merry (Enneagram 2) gets a coaching session from LIfe Coach Gillian (Enneagram 8). Listen in as Dr. Merry shares how she wants to escape her life and may be in danger of burn out once again. As her dear friend, Gillian walks her through a coaching session with some truth and poking to uncover what is going on.
This is a gut honest conversation into Dr. Merry’s internal world and what is playing out in the external.
Do you have external parameters and boundaries established? Do you let them slide to appease people? Dr. Merry is an Enneagram 2 with a strong 7 - meaning that she is a people pleaser and also suffers from FOMO. She shares how her deepest fear is people being angry with her. Gillian as an Enneagram 8 is pressing Merry to move to an 8 state of mind to deal with her deep fear.
This was an impromptu coaching session that came out of the blue but was very necessary for Merry to process.
Dr. Merry shares the 3 P’s that she needs to put in place to stop her from letting her parameters and boundaries slide:
Pause and reflect before responding
Process - ask these questions “What’s really going on in me?”, “What is it that I want and/or need?”,
Pray and if you are not the praying type then trust this with a wise friend to walk through.
And then the most important step:
Brave - after the above steps act on what your inner world is telling you!!
Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI
Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0
Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com
Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com
Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com