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May 8, 2020

025 - Life Interrupted: Lessons Learned from Facing the Unexpected (Part 2 of 2)

025 - Life Interrupted: Lessons Learned from Facing the Unexpected (Part 2 of 2)

Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love and purpose - with wisdom, humour and transparency -  through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.

This is part two of a two-part conversation. In part 1, Gillian interviews Peter about his journey dealing with unexpected job loss and cancer, and then follows up in part 2 with an interview with Dr. Merry.

Well listeners, what a privilege to interview both Peter and Merry as they share both their own and shared journey through Peter's cancer diagnosis and treatment.

Merry shares at such a vulnerable level her own journey through this time in their marriage.

As an Enneagram 2, Merry struggled with her "2-ness" and how her own desire to take care of Peter was challenged. She struggled with her “shoulds” as she faced her own emotions and was stretched to acknowledge that she had emotions during this time that were legitimate and permissible.

Perhaps, listener, you are feeling like your own emotional responses to COVID-19 are not ok because someone else is having a much more difficult time - suffering with COVID or losing a loved one to this horrible virus.

Merry shares how she and Peter had to come to the point where they were able to share his cancer journey together and be in the messiness of it together.  In this season with COVID we may not be able to meet others’ emotional needs but we can be in it together.

Some tips to navigate this hard season:

  1. Acknowledge that you have emotions and emotional needs.
  2. Acknowledge that there are going to be some really messy times.
  3. Lean on others because our spouses/family members may not be able to meet our emotional needs.
  4. Vent in a healthy way!
  5. Find creative ways to connect with other support people outside our family units.


Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI

Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0

Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com

Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com

Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com