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June 26, 2020

032 - Choosing Joy

032 - Choosing Joy

Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love and purpose - with wisdom, humour and transparency -  through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.

Joy is a really complex word and has such richness that in today’s episode we will just get a taste. Dr. Barbara Frederickson has written extensively about joy and she makes the distinction that happiness has to do with ourselves but joy tends to be around others.

We are encouraged to seek positivity points over time to foster joy over a lifetime. Joy can be in snippets - like a sunset or for extended periods of time like the birth of a child.

The good news is that we can experience joy in dark times even in the absence of happiness.

How do we choose joy in our lives?

  • Pausing to notice the small moments and leveraging an attitude of gratitude.
  • Recall situations that created joy.
  • Share a memory with a friend to remind us and our friend of a joy moment.
  • Remember that we are able to hold both joy and difficulty at the same time.
  • Revisit joy-filled experiences from previous birthdays, holidays etc to help manage stress in difficult and perhaps lonely times.
  • Joy in reframing.
  • Joy in savouring.
  • Joy in serving others - what can we offer to others to bring them joy?

In a faith context, joy is at the center of the Christian faith. Joy is also evidence that we are growing in our faith understanding and practices.  Merry and Gillian both agree that joy and hope are linked and crucial to navigating life.


Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI

Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0

Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com

Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com

Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com

Sources:  Dr. Barbara Frederickson

Reading:  “Surprised by Joy” C.S. Lewis.