Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love and purpose - with wisdom, humour and transparency - through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.
In this episode we lean into Merry’s wisdom on our locus of control. Remember, listeners that an external locus of control allows for us to be determined by the world and circumstance but an internal locus of control gives us the power over those external forces.
What: What are the narratives going on in your head? What is your internal dialogue? What are the things that have been said to you that have shaped who you are?
So what: We walk through some of the implications of how destructive voices have shaped us. Gillian shares how some destructive voices shaped her voice and still continue to make her question her own voice to this day.
Merry shares how her early years growing up Asian in suburban Toronto. Little girl Merry tried to become as white as possible. To this day, this shut down her own appreciation of her culture and has caused shame .
Now what. Listeners - what is your voice? What lies have you believed from others that you have believed to be the truth about you?
Merry’s perspective from a clinical stance. We can rewrite our narrative one narrative at a time. Listener - look back and reflect on what you believe about yourself. Pay attention to the tension! What are the lies and the mental agreements you have believed?
Gillian’s perspective from a Life Coaching stance.
In your Mega, Mezzo and Modest life, what has been said to you that is a lie?
You were probably told you were too much or too little. Perhaps you have believed this and it is shaping how you live today. Can you think of one thing that was said to you that doesn’t have truth to it? Write it out and share it with a close friend, ask their opinion and allow them to speak truth into your life! Then begin to write a new narrative to move forward!
Links:
Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI
Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0
Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com
Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com
Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com
Jen Hatmaker's book: https://amzn.to/2Z6QcKf
Erwin McManus book: https://amzn.to/3m2HcPM
