038 - Why Do We Struggle to Pursue What We Want?

Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry, and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love, and purpose - with wisdom, humor, andt ransparency -  through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.

We open this episode with the quote “ We are all just walking each other home”. By Ram Dass.  This phrase landed very deeply on both of us and we trust that you will allow time to just sit with it and let it soak in.

What:  Why do we struggle to pursue what we want?  For both Merry and Gillian, it boils down to feeling selfish or self-centered when we put our own needs as a priority.  What is preventing you?

So what: So where does that come from? What is preventing you from pursuing what you want? Do you know what you want?  Merry and Gillian both agree that this comes up as a roadblock for many clients.  Have you buried your wants? If you ask a child what they want they can quickly answer but what happens to the adult us to make us feel so stuck with this question.

We unpack for each Enneagram number what holds them back from what they want- listen in and see what resonates with you even if you do not know your Enneagram number.

Now what: Merry shares some powerful quotes from Brene Brown’s book “Braving the Wilderness”. How do we belong to ourselves and what matters to us and connects us to our wants?  We love that “true belonging is both brave and sacred”.

Therapeutic Exercise: Dr. Merry shares an exercise right from Brene Brown’s book - “write yourself a permission slip”. Permit yourself to give yourself something that you want.

Coaching Exercise: Gillian shares a coaching exercise:Write, draw, paint, create a time in your life where you showed up both brave and true to yourself. Don’t leave out any details because you are creating a trail map for the next time you have to brave the wilderness!

Links:

Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI

Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0

Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com

Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com

Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com

Jen Hatmaker's book: https://amzn.to/2Z6QcKf

Brene Brown’s book: https://amzn.to/35n9ZZE