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Oct. 23, 2020

041- Claim Your Unique Presence in Your Community!

041- Claim Your Unique Presence in Your Community!

Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love and purpose - with wisdom, humour and transparency -  through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.

What: The phrase “you deserve goodness” unsettled both Dr. Merry and LIfe Coach Gillian when we first read it. But when things stir us up, it is good to come at it with curiosity instead of judgment. How do you feel about the phrase? What is your reaction?

We use Chapter 4 of Fierce, Free and Full of Fire by author Jen Hatmaker to launch our conversation today.

So many wise voices chime in on this topic and we love this quote from Henri Nouwen’s  The Inner Voice of Love: “Your unique presence in your community is the way God wants you to be present to others…You have to know and claim your way... That will help you decide what to do and what to let go of, what to say and what to remain silent about, when to go out and when to stay home, who to be with, and who to avoid.” (in other words, healthy boundaries!!)

So What: This chapter paints a very different picture of what self-compassion looks like to us. Self-compassion is loving, kind, and gentle but it is also empowered truth. According to Jen Hatmaker, it is holding the soft and the fierce together. We explore what that means to us and our listeners.

Now what:

Therapeutic Tips: Listen in as Dr. Merry unpacks self-kindness, common humanity, and mindful acceptance. When we practice these we are extending goodness to ourselves and others.

Coaching Tips: Gillian urges listeners to show goodness to themselves by “dating themselves”. So many of us are pouring into others but not showing goodness to ourselves. Our own goodness to ourselves has a ripple effect on those around us and especially to the ones who are following us. So pick something good that you enjoy and take yourself on a date.


Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI

Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0

Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com

Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com

Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com

Jen Hatmaker's book: https://amzn.to/2Z6QcKf

Henri Nouwen book: https://amzn.to/3ilWop5