Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry, and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love, and purpose - with wisdom, humor, and transparency - through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.
What:
In this episode, we ask ourselves if we are over-functioning and being over-responsible. Guess what - it is a big - Bingo, Bango, Bongo for both of us. Are you in our little dysfunctional club?
So What:
Dr. Merry unpacks what this looks like in our lives at home, at work, in our parenting, and in other areas of our lives. How is this preventing or placing a barrier to those around us as we over-function in the areas that affect them and their growth?
Take a look at the 2 articles referenced in our podcast (links below) and see if you resonate with the information.
As Dr. Merry says “it is one thing to look at the behaviours but it is another thing to go to the underlying reasons for that behaviour.” Merry shares some of her insights into what is going on in her life and the underlying causes that compel her to over-function and be over-responsible.
Now What:
Therapeutic response:
Face the truth behind the over-functioning and over responsibility.
Where are you now?
Where do you want to go?
What is holding you back?
What will it take to walk out of the bondage of over-functioning and over responsibility and into freedom?
Life Coaching response:
Get out a big piece of paper and draw a big circle - like a pie.
Around the outside of the circle write out all the areas where you carry responsibility.
( a log of a week’s activities will be a great foundation for this)
Decide how much of the pie each area gets then fill in the pie accordingly. This will give you a very strong visual of where adjustments may be needed.
Links:
Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI
Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0
Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com
Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com
Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com
Over-responsibility article: https://bit.ly/355DcX3
Over-functioning article: https://bit.ly/348NW89
Ruth Haley Barton, Longing for More - https://amzn.to/2SZHUA9
