045 - Healthy Emotional Processing Using the Enneagram

Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry, and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love, and purpose - with wisdom, humor, and transparency -  through the lens of science, psychology, and life experiences.

What

In this episode, we cover the 9 types of the Enneagram from the 3 Centers: the Heart Center, the Head Center, and the Body Center. The good news is that healthy emotional processing is available to all of us no matter what Enneagram number or type we are. Listen and learn along with us as we move through the different numbers.

So What?

Emotions are signals that we need to lean into and pay attention to their messages.Today we talk about how some of the low emotions can move us to pay attention to what is going on within us and can move us along towards personal healthy growth and healthy emotional processing.

Healthy Emotional processing includes:

1. Know the emotion
   
2. Pay attention to the feeling and what it is trying to tell you
   
3. Stay with the emotion long enough to move through it
   
4. Make decisions or take action that promotes your growth from the above
   

Centers:

8-9-1 Body Center - primary emotion Anger

2-3-4 Heart Center -primary emotion Shame

5-6-7 Head Center - primary emotion Fear

Now what?

Life Coaching:

• If you can see & acknowledge how you have been acting out of the low place of emotions, then you can see the hope that moving to the high emotions will bring life to you.
  
• Being awake to the low emotions helps you make the changes necessary.
  
• Being alert, doing a gut check, and tracking with our emotions as they show up will move us towards healthy growth.
  

Therapeutic:

The work of self-growth is a lifetime journey, so be gentle and grace-filled with yourself. Movement - even incremental movement towards health helps get us on the right path.

Ask yourself:

1. Am I having trouble feeling the emotions?
   
2. Am I having trouble identifying what the emotion is ?
   
3. Am I having trouble sharing the emotion with another person?
   
4. Am I able to take appropriate action when the emotion surfaces?
   

Links:

Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI

Dr. Merry’s videos: https://bit.ly/377eFR0

Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com

Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com

Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com

Brene Brown, The Gifts Of Imperfection: https://amzn.to/2Hbm8aq