Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry, and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love, and purpose - with wisdom, humor, and transparency - through the lens of science, psychology, and faith.
Are you stuck in a place where you are full of regret or self-loathing about an area of your life? Perhaps you are stuck in a place of unforgiveness towards yourself.
The steps to pursue self-forgiveness (Dr. Fred Luskin):
Therapeutic Response: Practice PERT (Positive Emotion Refocusing Technique)
When you find yourself going into that loop, take 45 seconds:
Close your eyes, take a deep breath, slowly exhale and repeat
On the third breath focus on a place of beauty, a forest, a lake, a sunset, etc.
If you have apologized, remind yourself I have apologized and owned that.
Life Coaching Response: Replace guilt with gratitude.
Practicing gratitude gives our minds and our bodies a break from all the shame and guilt by replacing them with gratitude.
It helps to have a quote, a verse that you can repeat when the guilt and shame comes up. E.g., “There is now no condemnation..” Romans 8:1. So now the case is closed There remains no accusing voice of condemnation against those who are joined in union with Jesus.
Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI
Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com
Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com
Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com
Dr. Fred Luskin: https://amzn.to/3tHJJTt