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March 19, 2021

060 - The Examined Life: Telling Ourselves the Truth (Part 3 of 3)

060 - The Examined Life: Telling Ourselves the Truth (Part 3 of 3)

Welcome to The Fully Lived Life podcast! A podcast for those who are longing to pursue the full life and want to break free from anything that holds them back. Listen in as two friends - a psychologist, Dr. Merry, and a life coach, Gillian - talk about life, love, and purpose - with wisdom, humor, and transparency -  through the lens of science, psychology, and faith.


In today’s episode, Gillian takes a hard look at what was going on in her life when she was scarfing down cinnamon buns and chips to avoid feeling the powerlessness of her weakness and vulnerability to the ongoing Covid reality.

So What:

In her book “Lies We Tell Ourself - The Psychology of Self Deception”, the author Dr. Courtney Warren encourages us to pay attention to:

  1. What are your emotions telling you? Are you more reactive to someone or something? If you are having a strong emotional reaction to someone or someone take some time out to pause and ask yourself - What is this emotion?
  2. Pay attention to your thoughts. Do we believe that our thoughts are accurate reflections of reality? Do we think all our thoughts are true?  Often our thoughts are very inaccurate and may reflect painful realities that we don’t want to admit. I.  Extremes in thinking may point to self-deception.
  3. Notice your behaviour.  What is our behaviour telling us?   Are we listening to truth from trusted friends or are we looking for an ally in our point of view to prove we are right?

Now What:

Review the list below and be truthful to yourself about the blindspot you have.


1  denying anger with your shortcomings because it is wrong to get angry

2  denying your own needs and neediness/giving to get

3  denying the avoidance of failure

4  denying the ordinariness of your life

5  denying the emptiness especially in the area of relationships

6  denying any rebellion or disobedience coming out of your behavior or thoughts

7  denying any  pain and suffering in your life by running the other way

8  denying yourself any weakness or area of vulnerability

9  denying the avoidance of any  conflict or  disagreement and its cost to you/others


Dr. Merry’s book: https://amzn.to/2rCrJyI

Dr. Merry’s website: https://drmerry.com

Dr. Lin & Associates: http://drlinandassociates.com

Gillian’s Website: https://gillianmcshane.com

Dr. Courtney Warren: https://amzn.to/37npa5j